Such a vile word.
Such a small word to have so much weight is put upon it.
The dictionary defines it as an intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury or an extreme dislike or antipathy ( loathing).
We use the word so flippantly in our lives. I hate this or I hate that.
For those of us who are trying to lose weight we say we hate our bodies for not cooperating with what we are doing. We hate our jobs. We hate shellfish because it can kill us. I hate violence.
Sure the word has some uses in our vocabulary, but are we using it too much. Is it losing it’s power?
Those who have a difference in opinion have said they hate the other side. This applies to war, politics, homosexuality, religion, abortion, gun rights … feel free to insert any hot topic you wish here, it really isn’t the point.
Even now there is a large amount of attention being put on Taylor Swift and Katy Perry. Taylor HATES Katy.
Sure there was a time in my past when I could say I truly hated someone. Then when I was working for an office supply chain many many moons ago, there was a co-worker who … to say the least, we did not get along. I, at one point, thought that I HATED her. Then I’m not sure exactly what happened, but something clicked inside me and I’ve had a different view on the word and feeling of hate.
To me hate is a term to be used when you have such fire burning loathing and distaste for someone that you want them dead. You want their existence to be wiped off the face of this earth.
Yes, you can hate violence. You want it wiped off the face of this earth. You hate bullying. You want it eradicated from our lives. I hate cancer. It killed my father. I want it vanquished from this earth. Those are more than acceptable ways to use the word hate.
However, when you hate someone, do you wish for their existence to be wiped from the face of this earth? Do you want the pain that person has caused you to be inflicted upon someone else?
Think about it. You (most likely, though not always as there are those who dislike a group based on premise alone) hate them because they have caused you some sort of intolerable pain. Do you really want to inflict that kind of pain upon someone else?
Sure that co-worker and I didn’t get along, but did I really want her dead? Sure she made my life very difficult, but I didn’t make her’s any easier either. I was young and I learned from that experience. Did I hate her though? No. I didn’t want her dead. There would be no point in that.
Yes, you can greatly dislike someone. You can detest them. You can be repulsed by their existence. But ask yourself the next time you reach for the word hate. Do you really wish that person dead?
PS: I’m sorry if this sounds preachy. I’ve heard the word a lot this week, and it made me cringe every time. Such a simple word that invokes so many feels.